There are few decisions as challenging as knowing when to stick with something and when to pivot. The struggle often lies in our beliefs about persistence and quitting, our relationship with uncertainty, and our fear of the unknown, all conspiring to make it difficult to find the right path forward. And while these decisions are often very difficult, indecision can lead to a range of negative consequences, including prolonged stress, wasted resources, and missed opportunities. The ability to make these types of critical decisions effectively can significantly impact our professional success and overall well-being, but it’s tough to know where to start.
To help navigate these challenging decisions, here are the ten most essential questions to ask yourself when struggling to decide whether to persevere or call it quits:
1. What are my core values, and how does this align with them?
Understanding your core values is fundamental in making any significant decision. Reflect on what matters most to you. Is the current path aligned with your values? If not, persisting may lead to a sense of dissatisfaction and conflict. On the other hand, if the path aligns well with your values, it may be worth sticking through the challenges.
2. What is my ultimate goal, and is this helping me achieve it?
Consider your long-term goals. Does the current situation or project bring you closer to achieving these goals? If the answer is yes, it might be worth persevering through temporary setbacks. However, if it seems to lead you away from your desired future, it might be time to rethink your commitment.
3. Have I exhausted all possible solutions?
Before deciding to quit, evaluate whether you have tried all possible solutions to improve the situation. Sometimes, a different approach or a change in strategy can make a significant difference. Ensure that you have explored all avenues before making a final decision.
4. What is the cost of continuing versus the cost of quitting?
Weigh the costs associated with both continuing and quitting. Consider financial costs, emotional toll, time investment, and opportunity cost. Sometimes, the cost of persisting might be too high compared to the benefits, making quitting a more viable option.
5. How do I feel about this decision in my gut?
Your feelings and intuition can be powerful guides. Try to connect with your gut feelings about the situation; if something feels fundamentally wrong, it might be worth listening to that inner voice. Perseverance will often feel like dread or anxiety if it’s the wrong choice, and resolve or commitment if it’s the right one. If quitting feels like defeat or disappointment, it may be time to reconsider, but if it feels like liberation and relief, you might be on the right track.
6. What feedback have I received from others?
Seek feedback from trusted colleagues, mentors, or friends. They can provide an external perspective that you might not have considered. Sometimes, others can see things more clearly and help you make a more informed decision.
7. Am I making this decision out of fear or out of reason?
Distinguish between emotional, fear-based decisions and data-supported, reasoned decisions. Fear can often cloud judgment and lead to hasty decisions. Reflect on whether your desire to quit is based on a rational assessment of the situation or simply a fear of failure or discomfort.
8. What are the potential long-term consequences?
Consider the long-term impact of your decision. Will quitting have a lasting negative effect on your career or personal life? Will sticking with it lead to significant long-term benefits? Thinking beyond the immediate future can help clarify the best course of action.
9. How will this decision affect my personal life and well-being?
Consider the impact of your decision on your personal life and well-being. If continuing with the current path is causing significant stress and affecting your health or personal relationships, it might be time to reevaluate your commitment.
10. What is my plan B?
Always have a contingency plan. Knowing that you have an alternative can reduce the fear associated with quitting and help you make a more confident decision. If your plan B seems more promising and aligned with your goals, it might be time to pivot.
The decision to stick with something or to quit is never easy, but asking the right questions can provide clarity and guidance. Reflect on your core values, long-term goals, and overall well-being to make an informed decision. Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all answer, and sometimes the most courageous choice is to pivot and seek a new path. Embrace the journey, trust your intuition, and remember that every decision is a step toward personal growth and fulfillment. By carefully evaluating these questions and reflecting on your unique situation, you can navigate the crossroads with confidence and clarity, ensuring that your decisions align with your values, goals, and overall happiness. You’ve got this!
Danielle Terranova is the voice behind Leadership Lessons with Danielle.
She has been an executive coach since 2015 and owner of Terranova Consulting, LLC since 2019.
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